Dear Dearest, (They don’t like Black girls)

Dear Dearest, 

My daughter is a beautiful, chocolate, 18 year old whose personality just glows. But she recently told me that she never had a boy talk to her and that most boys she knows just don’t like Black girls. I asked her what she meant and she told me most Black boys are not attracted to Black girls unless they have European features and that white boys were just mean. She confided that she believes she will never find someone. This makes me so sad. What can I do to boost her confidence?  #concernedmama

Dear Concerned Mama, 

This unfortunately is historical and our beauty and intelligence is often passed up for what society has misfeed us with. I think you have a valid concern yet it has to be handled by your young adult. Her confidence will grow as you and others continue to pour into her. At 18 she may have to open her horizons to young men that are not so color struck or superficial. Many times, a man who knows and cares about his history, one who is socially conscious loves Black women. It’s a beautiful thing that she comes to you but unfortunately you can’t fix the damage that has existed in our community. Tell your daughter to use her voice, develop social circles and travel if possible. Her prince awaits.