Dear Dearest, (Can’t stand the kids)

Dear Dearest, 

I am a single co parent of four. I met a beautiful lady that I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She has 3 kids of her own. After two years of dating we moved in together. She does everything for me but since we added the kids it’s been a disaster. My children can not stand her and they are very over protected of me. They can be disrespectful and they go back and tell their mothers about her. She tries too hard to blend the family and this makes us fight. She wants to teach them and make them into perfect little soldiers. I just want to enjoy my kids when they are with me. My kids lay under me all the time. We cuddle and we are very close, and she seems to want to make them perfect like her kids. We’re from the hood where we stay up, have fun. Her and her boring kids need to go. Am I wrong?  I will pay her to leave. #puttingmykidsfirst

Dear Putting Your Kids First, 

Blended families are so difficult. Most do not work. You both should have talked about parenting style before moving in together. My concern is not about two adults but how all these children must feel with your fighting and knowing that you don’t want them there. I believe that you need to spilt amicably without involving the kids. Maybe it’s you that needs to leave and putting your children first is actually raising them not having fun all the time. Tolerating your kids to disrespect any adult is wrong. It seems you are the one that needs to be raised up. Praying you all find a peaceful solution because the one you got is not going to work.