Dear Dearest,

August 4, 2019

Dear Dearest,  

I have been with the same individual for 3 years. We started doing business together until we realized we had great chemistry. We had to immediately “x” the business relationship because it caused too much conflict with the new way that we looked at each other. We have even been disgraceful, fighting about business publically to our clients so we stopped those dealings completely. 

Yet we stayed intimate, traveling, exploring, truly falling in love, so I thought. As time passed, I wondered why he would never mention me to anyone. I became upset that I wasn’t a part of his social media circle or the thousands of pics we had taken were never shared. I posted us in Mali on my social media page and to my surprise he was outraged, causing one of our many break ups. But sexually it was so awesome that we always came back together. Months, went by, then years. When I asked him who I was to him or why he shares me with no one, he just brushed me off expressing he is really private. 

My consultant business has taken off and I am wondering is this the way the rest of my life will be. At one point he talked about marriage and a future but now I just feel like a high class hoe. I have no children and I’ve never been married. My question is, is he ashamed of me? And, should I just drop him? Other than the privateness, everything else is perfect.

Sincerely, “He Keeps Me Hidden”

Dear “He Keeps Me Hidden”, 

Your life will remain like this if you continue this behavior. Everything is not perfect in your relationship but I will start with “Reclaiming Your Time”. His “privateness” are your red flags sis and you need to jump off his sinking ship immediately. Take your life back. Three years is a mighty long time but love doesn’t string you along ever. As far as sex is concern, that is for someone who adores you, someone who will place you before any other. I hate social media, just for this reason. We are looking for clues of how people feel about us in cyber space. Look within sis. Start those feelings of love for yourself. I can’t tell you who to love or be intimate with and I don’t know if he is ashamed of you but I do know you have to rise up to such foolish and if others in his circle can’t say your name, neither can he. 

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